Calling All Kinky Wedding Ideas

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Dear Readers,

We interrupt our semi-regularly scheduled posting to bring you this special announcement: We got engaged! Vagabond popped the question in front of the speakeasy in Greenwich Village where we met for our first date three years ago, and Mimsy was overjoyed. On the walk home, the conversation turned kinky.

Vagabond: Asking for your hand was the last question I’m ever going to ask you.
Mimsy: Oh, really? Why’s that?
Vagabond: Because everything else, I’m just going to take.
Mimsy: [swoons]

Needless to say, we’re beyond thrilled to spend the rest of our kinky lives together and would love to figure out a way to give a nod to BDSM at our wedding without tipping off the vanilla folk. Handfasting, for example, is something we’ve considered, because it represents being bound together on two levels: symbolically and, for us, literally, because we practice rope bondage. It’s the kind of thing that will be a recognizable double entendre for our kinky friends, but will be seen as nothing more than a lovely ritual by guests who aren’t in the know.

Are there other things we could incorporate into the wedding or reception that would function on kinky and vanilla levels at the same time? We want to know!

If you’ve had your own kinky wedding, have attended someone else’s, or just have great ideas you’ve tucked away about how to subtly reference BDSM on your special day, we’re all ears. Leave a comment below or contact us directly!   

3 Comments

  • Congratulations! On your engagement. The hand fasting is a great idea. My submissive and myself were recently married and wanted to incorporate both a touch of kink and our belief of the red string of fate theory into our wedding by having a red string wraped around our hands. Another way we incorporated kink into it, was we slow danced to Caroline Baran’s cover of Nothing Else matters. As we felt some of the lyrics were applicable to a couple in a D/a dynamic. It speaks of being vulnerable to one another, being who are , not caring what others think, being true to who are as a couple and Nothing Else Matters!
    I wish you both the best and long and happy life together.

  • Congratulations! On your engagement. The hand fasting is a great idea. My submissive and myself were recently married and wanted to incorporate both a touch of kink and our belief of the red string of fate theory into our wedding by having a red string wraped around our hands. Another way we incorporated kink into it, was we slow danced to Caroline Baran’s cover of Nothing Else matters. As we felt some of the lyrics were applicable to a couple in a D/a dynamic. It speaks of being vulnerable to one another, being who are , not caring what others think, being true to who are as a couple and Nothing Else Matters!
    I wish you both the best and long and happy life together.

    • Wow! We didn’t know about the red string of fate and just read about it. That’s a beautiful idea.

      Your Postmodern Jukebox recommendation is damned sexy bluesy Metallica with great, kinky lyrics! As it turns out, Mimsy and I are aspiring blues-fusion dancers, so we could definitely play with that.

      Wonderful food for thought. Thank you so much for your comment.

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