On the eve of Supreme Court Justice nominee Brett Kavanaugh’s hearing in which Christine Blasey Ford would deliver wrenching testimony about how Kavanaugh sexually assaulted her in high school, my partner, Vagabond, tied me up, hit me, slapped me in the face, called me a slut and a whore, and fucked my brains out. I loved every second of it and all of our BDSM scenes. How? Consent.
(more…)Updated June 23, 2026
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When Mimsy first started getting in touch with her kinky side and learning about BDSM, she became obsessed with consensual non-consent (CNC). Also known as rape or ravishment play, CNC is a type of BDSM role-play in which the participants agree in advance to simulate a non-consensual act. This could resemble playful reluctance, full-blown abduction and “forced” sex, or myriad scenarios in between. Despite what it may look like, CNC is not assault. In fact, it’s one of the most carefully prepared types of play in BDSM. In this post, we’ll explain exactly what to consider as you plan a CNC scene.
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So, you identify as a top or a bottom, a dominant or a submissive, or really any kind of kinkster. Now what? Contrary to popular belief, the qualities that make a good top/dominant or a good bottom/submissive in BDSM are more alike than different. (more…)
A conversation about how we met and started doing rope bondage.
Mimsy: When I met you, I had just ended a six-year vanilla relationship a few months before and had been on what one of my friends jokingly called the “fuck tour.” After some tantalizing experiences with kinky guys, the tour came to a screeching halt because I contracted genital HSV-1 and experienced an absolutely horrendous outbreak that left me gun-shy and nervous.
