Creating Captivating Classes: A Guide for Kink, Sexuality, and Relationship Presenters: This book by Shay and Stefanos Tiziano breaks down exactly how to teach kinky educational classes. Topics include creating class outlines, how to conduct demos, common pitfalls for newbie presenters, and more. Plus, the book includes a number of interviews with well-known kink educators, each of whom focuses on a different aspect of the craft.
Different Loving: Based on interviews with hundreds of kinksters, authors Gloria and William Brame and Jon Jacobs take the reader on a guided tour of dozens of facets of BDSM. This book is an excellent resource for newbies and old hands alike.
Flogging: This extremely thorough guide to flogging by veteran BDSM educator Joseph Bean covers everything you need to know about flogging techniques, negotiation, flogger care, and more through sample scenes and detailed explanations.
How To Make Your First BDSM Scene Amazing: Although this short book is directed at dominant women, the practical, solid advice author Sharyn Ferns offers is relevant to anyone who’s new to constructing BDSM scenes.
The Loving Dominant: This influential book teaches new tops how to explore BDSM with all five senses.
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: One of our favorites, this classic and charming book by Molly Devon and Philip Miller imparts realistic wisdom about BDSM, and D/s in particular, based on the authors’ decades of experience. Although the book is especially useful for people in a male dom/female sub dynamic, the information is pertinent to anyone looking to engage in BDSM.
Sex with Shakespeare: In this memoir, Jillian Keenan explains how her love of Shakespeare helped her accept her spanking fetish. Keenan is a vocal member of the spanko community.
The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo: This slim volume by Mollena Williams explores some kinks that are considered to be taboo even within the BDSM community (e.g., religion, race play, bodily fluids, etc.) and what to consider if you want to venture into this territory.
Boundless Events: A San Francisco-based kink community, Boundless offers online classes. Topics have included interrogation scenes, mindfulness for BDSM, and creating amazing scenes.
Kink Positive: “A project designed to help spread information, experience, and knowledge in all things related to kink and sex positive thinking,” Kink Positive offers numerous online classes on topics such as pet play, edge play, and scene negotiation.
TES: The oldest BDSM organization in the country, TES offers online classes every Tuesday. Topics have included better bottoming for submissives, pegging, and extreme degradation.
Wicked Grounds: Wicked Grounds offers a combination of online and in-person classes at their San Francisco event space. Topics for their online classes have included advanced negotiation, dating while kinky, and determining your risk profile.
Oxy: Specializes in gear for chastity, CBT, feet (silicone models and masturbators), and more.
Pleasure Chest: Emphasizes sex positivity, inclusivity, and education and offers an assortment of kink gear and other toys online and classes at their stores.
Stockroom: Offers a wide variety of BDSM furniture, equipment, and toys.
Communication: Learning from the BDSM Community: In this short video, couples therapist Esther Perel interviews sex therapist Margie Nichols about lessons that society at large can learn from the way the BDSM community approaches consent, communication, and negotiation.
CrashPadSeries: “Based on the queer sex cult classic The Crash Pad, CrashPadSeries.com continues the story of a secret apartment in San Francisco dedicated to hot, queer sex.” Performer consent and negotiation are of paramount importance.
Evie Lupine: Lupine’s videos on all aspects of BDSM are thoughtful and insightful educational tools for BDSM newbies, experienced kinksters, or anyone in between.
Kink Academy: A comprehensive kink library of video tutorials on everything from negotiation and safer sex to rope bondage and pony play. Many of the tutorials are free, but members get access to all 2000+ videos. There are some great instructors, including Rain DeGrey, Orpheus Black, and Topologist.
Kink University: If you like your BDSM education with a dash of porn, kink.com’s Kink University might be for you. World-class educators like Danarama, Nina Hartley, and Shay and Stefanos teach an array of sexy BDSM skills.
Kink Unlimited: Probably the most famous producer of ethical BDSM porn in existence, kink.com films cover numerous categories, including bondage, humiliation, and corporal punishment.
PinkLabel.TV: Curated by Shine Louise Houston of Pink & White Productions, PinkLabel.TV hosts a collection of indie adult films from around the world, with films that explore kink spanning erotic fantasy, education, and documentary.
XConfessions: Part of director Erika Lust’s ethical porn empire, XConfessions porn is based on the fantasies of viewers. There are multiple categories of films to watch, including ones focused on BDSM.
BDSM Events Page: An up-to-date listing of BDSM conventions and large-scale events across the U.S. and abroad.
Compilation of Bottoming Classes: A compilation of bottoms throughout the U.S. and Canada who teach classes on various aspects of bottoming, such as CNC, impact, service, and negotiation. Must be a member of FetLife to view.
Kink Aware Professionals Directory: A service provided by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom “dedicated to providing the community with a listing of psychotherapeutic, medical, legal and other professionals who have stated that they are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality.”
Kink Education Code of Conduct: This extremely thorough code of conduct was developed by and for kink educators and producers to address a “consent crisis in kink education.” The code also gives anyone who plans to attend a kink-related class or workshop a good idea of how responsible kink educators should behave. The site includes a list of educators who have adopted the code.
(K)ink: Writing While Deviant: An ongoing series of personal essays from the Rumpus by writers exploring how their art is connected to their kinky practices.