Perspectives from Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC)
- 3 Reasons the Kink Scene is Hellish for Black, Disabled, Non-Cis Kinksters: Mickey Valentine highlights the problems that Black, disabled, agender kinky people face in the BDSM community.
- Chills Down My Spinal Degeneration: Why We Need Black Queer Disabled Kink: Jade T. Perry explains the benefits of kink for people with disabilities: “It was Blackqueerdisabledkink knowledge that taught me how revolutionary my bed could be.”
- Fetish & Submission from a Black Person’s Perspective: Performance artist and porn performer Bishop Black explains what it’s like to buck certain stereotypes as a Black male sub in the kink scene.
- Fifty Shades of Nope: Being Fetishized as a Person of Color in Kink: This article by Vianca Masucci addresses the negative influence of the Fifty Shades franchise on BDSM practitioners generally and people of color specifically. She recounts multiple anecdotes of being fetishized and stereotyped within the kink community.
- The Financial Dominatrix Making Space for Black Sex Workers: This article by Sandra Song profiles Mistress Marley, a Black fin domme who created the Black Domme Sorority, which acts as a support and education network for its 1,000+ members.
- The History & Myths of Japanese Bondage: Midori dismantles the traditional Western story about the history of shibari, noting that “investing in a romantic but false narrative of a culture and its people is another form of “othering.”
- History of Black BDSM: This is a brief overview of the history of Black BDSM that includes links to other resources. This page is part of Dark Connections, a website devoted to Black BDSM.
- How Asian American Dominatrixes Use Stereotypes to Their Advantage in the Fetish World: This article by Tiffany Diane Tso explores how several NYC-based pro-dommes simultaneously buck and benefit from stereotypes about Asian women.
- The Issue With Being Black and Kinky: In this response to Luna Malbroux’s article (linked below), BDSM educator and male dominant Orpheus Black writes about the long history of conservative attitudes toward sex among many BIPOC and his own experience of being ostracized by family and friends when they discovered he was poly and kinky.
- Kinky: The Documentary: This funny and illuminating documentary about Black BDSM practitioners includes interviews with experienced Black kinksters as well as “people on the street” in New York.
- My Sexuality Has a Dark Side—And Maybe Yours Does Too: In this article by Black feminist kinkster Feminista Jones, she addresses the vulnerability of Black s-types in particular, noting that “With kink communities being so marginalized and Black kink communities being even more isolated, it becomes even more difficult to speak out against those who violate others.”
- Our Desire, Our Power: QTBIPOC BDSM and Consent: In this article, Noor, a self-described queer, trans, nonbinary, brown, spoonie, explains the importance of consent within the QTBIPOC BDSM community, noting that “by centering BIPOC agency and desire through consent- and desire-focused spaces like QTBIPOC-focused BDSM, we can disrupt the cycle of abuse interpersonally and systematically.”
- A Portrait of a Black Woman in Kink: The subject of this profile is Sara Elise, a Black, queer, submissive woman who has grappled with the many complexities of race in the realm of BDSM.
- Queer Dominatrix Yin Q Is Shattering Asian Stereotypes: This interview with former pro domme Yin Q focuses on her efforts to normalize BDSM and upend Asian stereotypes in her web series Mercy Mistress, which is based on her own experiences.
- Take the Pleasure Back: Journalist Brandy Collins takes an in-depth look at steps being taken in the Bay Area BDSM scene to upend stereotypes about BIPOC in kink and be more inclusive.
- Tension with Intention: The Role of Kink/BDSM in the Anti-Racist Conversation: In this video, Shakti Bliss Bunny and YumYumPanda, two BIPOC kinksters who teach rope classes, discuss cultural appropriation and racism as they pertain to the rope scene in particular, which is widely considered to be one of the most privileged arenas of BDSM.
- When You Want to Be Into BDSM But It’s Too Soon Because You’re Black: Luna Malbroux recounts some of the problems she’s encountered as a Black woman exploring BDSM, including fetishization, stereotyping, and contending with the legacy of slavery.
- Yes, Master: The Complicated Life of a Black Woman Who Gets Off on Being a Sex Slave: Feminista Jones discusses the complexities of being a Black woman who identifies as a BDSM slave and the mental work she had to do to reconcile the two.
BIPOC BDSM Educators
- BlakSyn: A queer pro top, rigger, and BDSM educator who writes about the intersection of race, mental health, and BDSM, among other topics.
- Eternal Angel: A pro domme and BDSM educator specializing in mental health in BDSM, edge play, and more. Her videos on Kink Academy focus on rough body play.
- Midori: Highly experienced sexuality and BDSM educator who teaches and writes on a range of topics, including female domination, rope, and humiliation. Author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, among other books. We attended a rope class she taught a number of years ago that included a riveting demo that we still talk about today.
- Mollena Williams-Haas: Renowned BDSM educator, author, and slave who is a thought leader on race play and power exchange dynamics, among other things. Evie Lupine’s interview with her on M/s relationships and taboo play is excellent.
- Orpheus Black: Dominant specializing in knife play, flogging, and other aspects of BDSM, which are covered in his videos on Kink Academy. We attended a flogging class he taught at a convention, and it was by far the best class we went to there.
- Robin Wilson-Beattie: Disability and sexuality health educator with a number of videos on Kink Academy related to BDSM and disability.
- Shakti Bliss Bunny: Rope educator focusing on “centering Black kinsters in their reclamation of their joy and sensual exploration.”
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